Living the 7 Habits
1. Be proactive
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Put first things first
4. Think win-win
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood
7. Sharpen the saw
HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE: Proactive kids are responsible for their own actions. They recognize they are making their own choices and are empowered by that understanding.
How can you be proactive?
Take responsibility for your actions. - if you make a bad choice, admit to it
Don't let other people influence you in a bad way. - if a friend is making a bad choice, don't follow their example
Use positive language. - try avoiding phrases like "I can't" or "I won't"
Make your own fun. - don't wait for other students to approach you on the playground, create a new game or join a new group
HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND: By visualizing what the goal (the end) is for individuals (families, teams and organizations) children take control of their future. They have a vision of where they are headed and how they are planning on getting there.
How can you begin with the end in mind?
Make to do lists.- If you want to accomplish things in your day, start with a list so you know what you need to do
Set goals- knowing where you want to be will help you figure out how to get there.
Budget your money- think about how you spend your money. Should you save it for something special later, or get something not as important now?
HABIT 3: PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST: Children are able to organize themselves and prioritize their responsibilities so that they keep aligned with their principles and what they value the most.
How can you put first things first?
- Make a to-do list and prioritize important things. - Clean your room before you play outside. Help your mom with the dishes before you leave the kitchen after dinner.
- Do your classwork before you have free time. - Check your classwork folder to make sure you've turned in all require assignments before you play on the computer or read a book.
- Study even if you don't have a test the next day.- If you study a little each day, it's better than studying for 2 hours the night before a test.
HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN: Children who think win-win have a frame of mind and heart that seeks mutual benefit and mutual respect with all they are involved. It is about "we" not "me" that drives them to an empathetic relationship with others.
How can you think win-win?
- Be cooperative. - Have an open minded attitude instead of a "my way or the highway" outlook.
- Be considerate. - Think about what other people want, not just what you want.
- Be a good problem solver. - Find ways to make both sides happy without having to compromise.
HABIT 5: SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND, THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD: When we listen so that we can understand others, not so much so that we then can reply, we begin to experience what true communication is like. It doesn't take away from our opportunities to speak, it enriches us when we do.
How can you seek first to understand, then to be understood?
- Listen with your eyes, ears, and heart. -Try to make eye contact when someone is talking to show them that you're paying attention. Use your ears to hear what they have to say and how they feel. Lastly, use your heart to empathize with them and care about what they are sharing with you.
- Repeat back what you hear. -To make sure you really understand, repeat what the other person said.
- Help friends when you see them having a misunderstanding. -Help them take turns explaining their sides of the story. Remind the other person that it is not their turn to talk yet. After they listen to the other person, they'll get their chance to share their feelings. When that time comes, make sure the one who already shared listens to other as well.
HABIT 6: SYNERGIZE: This habit is all about team work and cooperation. Not just my way or your way but our way. It encompasses respect, valuing others as well as celebrating differences.
How can you synergize?
- Use cooperative learning strategies at school. - When you're working on a group project, share everyone's ideas. Work together to brainstorm ways to use those ideas to create a project.
- Help other people. - If you and your brother both need to clean your rooms before you can play, why not team up. You can both clean his room, then you can both clean yours. Both rooms will get cleaned better and faster, and then you can play.
- Share victories. - If you play on a sports team, don't let one player do all the action. Use each player's individual strengths to make the best team possible.
HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW: To be an effective person, we have to continually renew our emotional/social, physical, mental and spiritual self. This is the key to being able to live out the 7 habits effectively.
How can you sharpen the saw?
Play outside, stretch, go for a walk, sing, meditate, do yoga, volunteer, visit with friends, spend time with your family, play games, make new friends, have fun with your pets, etc.